When Mike and I were both working full time, we split the house chores as evenly as possible. I made the bed; he took the garbage out. I washed bathroom counters and mirrors; he scrubbed showers. I steamed the tile floors; he vacuumed the carpeted rooms. He washed his clothes; I washed mine.
That last one surprised people the most. From older family members to younger friends, there seemed to be one universal Rule of Laundry that everyone else was following: The woman does it.
No offense to my darling husband, but that wasn’t going to happen in our house. We both worked. I did all the other laundry in our home, including towels, sheets and Ryan’s clothes. My husband was a grown man who had lived on his own for many years before we were married and always managed to show up in clean clothing. I did not need to spend every waking hour at home doing laundry. He could continue to wash his own T-shirts.
Unfortunately, that arrangement doesn’t fly when he’s working all day and I’m not.
All that to say: I’m doing a lot of laundry these days.
Other ways in which I am becoming The Embodiment of Domesticity:
1. I cooked my first meal in at least a few years that was not a frozen pizza, a grilled cheese or stir fry (my one and only specialty). For as much as I love baking, I dislike cooking approximately an equal amount. But when one is home all day and one prefers home-cooked food to takeout, one must get over such things.
2. I can finally fold a fitted sheet into a flat square rather than a balled-up mess.
3. I have rediscovered my inner cheapness. I’ve always been a bargain-hunter — after all, Mike and I started our marriage on journalists’ salaries. But I had gotten a little lax over the past couple of years when new jobs afforded us a fair amount of disposable income. Now that our income is anything but disposable, I’m back on the hunt. My new catchphrase is “There’s no way I’m spending $X on THAT.”
4. I am considering making my own household cleaner. I’ve always thought it was a good idea, in an abstract way; now I may actually follow through.
Any other Domestic Geniuses out there? Give me your best tips. Ways to save money on groceries; websites for easy (read: crockpot) meals; advice on the whole make-your-own-cleaner thing; whatever else I’m not thinking of.